A favourite quote of mine from Dr. Wayne Dyer is ″Our lives are the sum of the choices we have made″. Reflecting over the holiday season I thought a lot about the decisions I’ve made in my short 34 years of life. Sometimes it’s the big choices that have a significant impact on our lives, but more often it’s the cumulative impact of the smaller choices we make daily. I wanted to share with you some of the best decisions I’ve made so far
Dedicating Time For Myself Daily
This time very often takes the form of my meditation practice. The biggest part of this journey for me was letting go of my preconceived notions, assumptions and self-limiting beliefs of what meditation looks like or ″should″ be. When I let go of expectations I was free to create, enjoy and explore my own practice.
When I was younger I used to suffer from terrible Acne. This created a love hate relationship for me with my skin. A few years ago that all changed when I decided to make moisturizing my skin a daily ritual of love. Now when I get out of the shower or find those little pockets of time throughout my day to apply moisturizer I make this task mindful and express love for my body and the skin I am in.
Stop Placing Expectations On Other People
Overtime I began to observe how many of my disappointments or heartaches were because of expectations that I was placing on other people. I decided to challenge my own beliefs and to know deeply that the purest form of love in my important relationships is free of expectations – to love that person exactly as they are/can be. This new practice started small. For example if I was hosting a dinner party/event and a friend bailed at the last minute or didn’t come instead of getting upset, I chose love. If my partner said he did not feel like coming to an event with me, I chose love. Over time the cumulative effect of these decisions to practice a more pure form of love towards my good friends and family without expectations created a better quality of life for me (a.k.a less drama) and actually improved the quality of those relationships.
Eliminating Things That Do Not Serve Me
This year marks 7 years since I decided to eliminate alcohol from my life. As you can imagine it was not an easy journey given how deeply ingrained alcohol is in our western social culture. Along the way I’ve lost and had to let go of many relationships in my life. Many people wonder if there was some terrible incident that was the catalyst to this decision…….the truth is there wasn’t. I just grew tired of unproductive Saturday mornings feeling terrible and going over and over things I may have said or done questioning my decisions (e.g. waking up to burnt half eaten Kraft dinner or a pizza slice under my pillow). This decision is not for everyone, but I can honestly say it is by far the best decision I have made….so far :)